Today our guest post is from the other “half” of the awesome blog More Like Momma. Erin has an incredible word about Mothering today, that I feel is applicable to all of us whether you have children or not.
The Balancing Act Called Motherhood – Erin
A couple weeks ago my sweet Bubby started running a fever. When he woke up from his afternoon nap, his body was hot & clammy and he was sobbing. My momma-heart broke. Bubby is one of the easiest, happiest, most content babies I have ever had the privilege of knowing, but this day he was inconsolable. I held his limp body close to mine, talking quietly to him and praying over him. I felt helpless. There was really nothing I could do. I gave him some fever-reducing medicine, but I knew it would only help ease the symptoms and not actually take care of the problem behind them. I couldn’t truly make him feel better; it was out of my hands.
As Mommas, we hate that. We want to sing Mary Poppin’s “Spoonful of Sugar,” give a hug & a kiss, and make it all better. And unfortunately for us, our desire to control & fix doesn’t always end with booboos and fevers.
We often try to manipulate or push our children to do or be certain things. Some of this can be very good – some can be self-serving. We might want our child to make it into the all-state honor concert band because we were just narrowly edged out so many years ago. We may want our children to choose a certain career path – maybe doctor, teacher or homemaker. We may be trying to pull out the weeds in our child’s life so that the fruit of the Spirit can grow and thrive. Our greatest desire may (and should) be that our children love and serve the Lord. We need to evaluate our desires to make sure they line up with God’s, but our self-examination shouldn’t stop there.
When Bubby was sick, it was up to me to cultivate the right environment to comfort him and help him feel better. I made sure he had on light, breathable clothing, I got his favorite blanket, I offered him plenty of water, I talked soothingly to him and I gave him plenty of cuddles. But I knew the rest was out of my hands. I sat back and allowed the true healing work to be done by The Father because to try to do it myself would be futile. Do I take the same attitude with all other aspects of my children’s lives? Am I trying to control and fix everything, or am I allowing God to do what only He can?
If I want my children to have a servant’s heart, do I try to force it upon them? Or do I set a good example, help them commit relevant scripture to memory, pray for them, provide opportunities for them to act upon, and at the same time let go enough to let God take care of the genuine heart change?
Being a momma is always a balancing act. In fact, I believe that is one reason being a momma is such blessing – I have not found a better way to develop my faith. We dare not quit, throw our hands up in frustration and expect God to bring true heart change in our children without any effort from us. God puts quite a bit of responsibility upon us when He says, “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” (Prov 22:6) But we must remember that it is our job to provide the right environment, and not veer off to the other extreme. We cannot control. We cannot change our children’s heart. Let’s walk day-by-day asking God to help steady us as we wobble our way through this balancing act called motherhood.
Erin is married to The Officer and together they live out their love story in small town Iowa. She is a full time stay-at-home momma to three precious children whom she also homeschools. Her momma is a big source of inspiration as she daily learns to live out God’s calling on her life. You can read about her journey at More Like Momma. Erin enjoys gardening, small sewing projects, cooking from scratch and hanging clothes out on the line.