The countdown has begun! In 5 days, my hubby and I will celebrate our 1st Anniversary! I can’t believe we have almost been married one year. Does that mean we aren’t Newlyweds any more? I have always wondered what defines a couple as a “newlywed.” And if we are no longer “newlyweds,” are we “olderweds?”
With our first anniversary approaching, I have been reflecting on all the things the Lord has taught me through the beautiful and mysterious gift of marriage.
Today, my reflection is a story of an unusual way the Lord convicted my heart during a “discussion” (we don’t argue we discuss…ha…ha!) my husband and I had.
We had been there for maybe 15 minutes when my husband said something that hurt my feelings. I knew it shouldn’t have, but the longer I thought about his comment the more and more mad I became.
In my mind the beach trip was ruined…and of course the lengthy “discussion” that followed didn’t ease my angry emotions.
We came to a point in the “discussion” where I knew I should let it go, apologize for my horrible attitude and move on. But I didn’t want to.
“Why should I be the first to apologize?” I rationalized in my head.
“He started it, He shouldn’t have said that”
So I sat on my towel….
I had a pout on my lips and my eyes squinted with self righteous disdain, like a 2 year old who can’t eat their cookie before dinner.
As I glanced down to see what it was I felt 2 more splats on my upper arm and…yewwwww…my stomach!!!!! It was white, filthy and stinky sea gull poop…
And it was all over me!!!!!!!!!!
I started laughing…then screaming…then running to the water…
My husband helped me wash off the poop in the ocean. I wondered if salt water could kill the bacteria that had been living in that poop.
Our beach day was over…as if the “discussion” hadn’t killed the easy summer living mood, the seagull poop certainly had.
I raced towards our car with one thought in my head..
Get me to our shower and my soap ASAP!
In the 20 minutes drive home…I found myself laughing again as I thought about the events of the day.
– Husband makes comment.
– I take huge offense (although I knew his comment was not in any way meant to be offensive or hurtful)
– I harbor my offense
– I pout
– I refuse to apologize
– I get pooped on…3 times in a row.
“Babe”, I said, my heart humbled and softened after the previous 45 minutes…
“I think God is trying to tell me something.”
“What?” He asked…
“Stop having a POOPY attitude!”
We both laughed as I apologized for having a poopy attitude and ruining our beach trip.
Marriage, is a lot like that fateful beach day. We can believe the worst about each other or the best. We can hold on to offense and refuse to apologize or we can repent, forgive and move on.
We can find the fault in our spouse…while not realizing that the fault may be in us.
Until your folly is revealed to you by a pooping sea gull…
p.s. I was pooped on one other time this summer by a sea gull at the beach…this time it was witnessed by a group of friends. I am happy to report that I was not having a “poopy” attitude that day….
Any other “newlyweds” or “olderweds” out there? What has God taught you during your beginning years of marriage?